Wednesday, December 06, 2006

Dunno how to feel...

OK, I'm sort of confused. Let me explain...

So one of these women that I went out with over the past couple months is super fun, super crazy (like me!) and digs me even. Where's the hitch? She's sort of into another relationship, not yet going out, doesn't know where it's heading kinda thing. And did I mention I totally dig her too? Last Saturday, we were thisclose to kissing but stopped just short of it. So we spoke on Sunday and said we'd just go with the flow and see where it goes. But she kept saying she didn't want to lead me on. I don't even know if she's led me on, stuff has just... happened. My friends totally like her and I, to be honest to myself, really like her too.

Aside:
I don't even know if I should be writing about this on my blog since I've discovered there are many lurkers around these parts, whom I know. But I don't want to change the spirit of the blog. It's always been more writing to myself so I'm going to continue in the same vein...

Now yesterday, a close family friend has asked me to meet another woman to see if 'I might interested in a long-term relationship with her'. For those of you who arent' Indian, this is how arranged marriages work. There's massive social networking that goes on to get single, "marriagable" folk hooked up, to be married of course. So now, I'm supposed meet this new woman and figure out if I like her and want to eventually get married. Meeting people for a purpose sorta freaks me out. The purpose always seems to overshadow the people. You know what I'm saying? (for family members who lurk here... SHHHHHHH! IT'S AN ORDER! you know who you are! I will run away from home if you go about advertising it to ANYBODY! I promise you)

Anyhow, I don't know about this whole marriage thing. I don't want to brood over it too much but it's what's currently in my head so I'm spilling it out here. Basically, I really like the woman mentioned in the first part of this post. And I'm going to go with the flow. Do exactly what I feel the right thing to do is and see how it goes.

I love the confusion and unpredicatability of this whole thing. I have no idea what's going to happen. And deep down, I'm cool with anything.

The other day I was proposing the concept of surprise marriages to a friend. You know how you have surprise birthdays? Same thing! Except you see who you're marrying right at the wedding. Haha... What a trip! Imagine that! Going into your own wedding having no idea who you're going to marry. No prenups allowed! :)

10 comments:

Satandit said...

~~In matters of the heart,going with the flow is always better; esp. when one realizes later that doing just that would have made life so much simpler vs. all the ohmygods!,the whatifs!, and all that other jazz we come up with to keep our selves from really 'feeling'. Go with the flow dude...worse come to worse we bloggers can always arrange a no prenup surprise wedding for ya :P.

Also, dont you dare change the way & what you want to write on this blog for no body. This is your space, and you can do whatever the hell with it...

Good Luck with the lady (the one you really dig...not the one you have to go see:P)~~

Noojes said...

oooh welcome to the club of arranged marriage hook ups

I have been doing it for 8 years!

Just go with the flow in life and see what happens

Chillax ajeya

Noojes said...

PS - We shud catch up at Leo's or Mondy's for a drink sometime

noojes

Alexys Fairfield said...

Don't be the "other" man, be the ONLY man. If she is vacillating between the two of you, she is waiting to be swept one way or the other -- so get your broom!

haathi said...

aaah... believe it or not, the radars seem to have caught up with me too. i cant tell yu how bloody annoying it is... sigh

ramblingmuse said...

Those feelings are great, aren't they? But I agree with Alexys. You want someone who will be devoted to you. You can't have your heart in more than one place and that's where she's at right now.

Good luck with her...did you take her sailing yet? ;)

Ajeya said...

satandit... a mo-prenup surprise wedding... hahah... so tempting! ;) about my writing, ok i wont, i wont. yeah, it's friday!!! woo hoo..

noojes.. 8 years!!! holy f%^&!!! haha... you're a pro! this is my first hook up so i really don't know what to do. i have a feeling i'll make an ass of myself... which, in light of other developments, coudl be a good thing! :) mondy's or leo's??? i'm there a lot on weekend aftnoons. but we should get a drink or something soon.

alexys... i'm gonna take your advice. tonight's the night! :D

haathi... i can imagine. indian women are targeted much earlier and its sort of expected. for us menfolk, it's like a bolt of lightning! actually, it's a bolt of lightning for anyone, man or woman. just that women get hit earlier.

RM... oh they're fab feelings! hahah... noooooo... this is the non-sailing woman!!! ;)

anumita said...

This sounds so exciting, the first part! Yes, yes, go with the flow and enjoy it all. Dont rush it.

Noojes said...

Weekend afternoons *sigh* I wish I remembered what those were...
But unfortunately work keeps me indoors in a swank office building in the deep suburbs all afternoons...
But how about we plan on night at Leo's upstairs - am off on a trip to Chennai - will message when back
Cheers
noojes

Ajeya said...

noojes.. sounds good. lemme know